But I love it!
But it’s not easy. My ass has kissed the pavement a few times.
But I still love it.
I’ve discovered a few common themes with my other past times, parenting and comedy, and now skating. My spiritual psychology degree comes in handy.
If you engage in any of these, or really any activity that requires you to shove your ego aside (or "practice self-forgiveness" as we say in spiritual psychology school), perhaps you’ll find them useful.
Comedy, Parenting, and Roller Skating: Tips from someone who’s learning as she goes...
Embrace “beginner’s mindset” when you’re a beginner.
You don’t have to be an expert to do any of these things. NOBODY is at first. You just gotta start and be okay with falling on your ass, often in public.
Haters will hate because they’re judging themselves for being too scared to do it themselves and it’s an easy way to talk themselves out of doing it. (ie: “Who does she think she is? I’d NEVER do that in public!”)
Note to haters: Forgive yourselves for judging yourselves.
More encouraging folks will tell you you’re “brave.” That means you’re brave. It doesn’t mean you’re any good. And that’s okay. Cuz you’re still learning.
When you get good, they may stop saying you’re brave. They might even say you’re funny (or a good mom or a good skater). But you’re still always learning.
And you're still brave for doing this in the first place. Give yourself a coconut smoothie (or equivalent) for getting your tired/embarrassed/sore ass out of bed and doing this crazy thing.
Relax (or at least try to breathe)
Remember you’re not gonna literally die if you don’t get laughs and your kids won’t die if you say the wrong things.
Take your time
You can always learn and get better. Don’t try to rush your set, your career, your turns, or your kids’ growth.
Stay in the mo’ and go with the flow, yo.
Don’t focus on yourself
Sometimes I’ll hear myself giving advice to my kids and I judge how mom-ish it sounds (“I think everybody has something special to share...”) and I’ll try to overcompensate with a story about myself as a kid, which sounds even more mom-ish. Just shut up and listen. And practice self-forgiveness.
Don’t go into your head when a joke doesn’t land. Just keep going with your set or focus on the audience. Jokes about the jokes not working should be kept to a minimum.
Kids and audiences know what’s up. Tell the truth and you will show respect to your kids and get laughs from your audience. Your story about trudging through snow for 10 miles to get to school is BS and everyone knows it. And it’s not funny.
Instead, talk about the times you did naughty stuff and what you learned (cater the style of naughty to the age of your audience).
Not sure how this one applies to skating except don’t be afraid to look stupid.
This one’s still a challenge for me but I’m learning I don’t have to share every detail. Nobody’s fully listening anyway. Give kids the human parts, adult audience gets the human plus the juicy bits.
Clear all obstructions.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Yeah it’s clichéd but I’ve come to understand it better as I’ve practiced stand-up and parenting, and now skating. The first few years can be terrifying. Notice the fear and say “hey wassup? You can join me or don’t. Either way I’m going through with this.”
Again, music helps.
Yer not done till yer done.
The better you get, the more you realize you have to learn. But the learning gets fun once you stop falling on your ass. Though you may sometimes still do that. And that’s okay too.
Remember you're doing it for the LOVE of it.
Keep on doing (cuz with kids you don't have a choice) and keep on loving.