Wishlist for my kids

I’m raising a boy AND a girl. 

There's so much good stuff coming out of the #metoo and #timesup movement.  I feel inspired for myself, my fellow females, and my daughter.

​I'm also seeing lots of division between genders.  I see people looking to blame and punish.  I get it, people are angry.  I'm angry, for all the women who've been mistreated, for all the opportunities missed because of fear or refusing to playing the game. 

Anger can be powerful.  Not as powerful as love, IMO.

I want my boy to learn to treat women well because they're human beings who deserve respect.  Not because he's worried about the consequences if he doesn't.

I want my girl to love men and see them as fellow human beings, not big scary penis monsters.

I want my daughter to feel empowered.

I want my son to be respectful.

I want both for both of them.

I want my son to accept himself as he is.  I don’t want him to feel ashamed of his instincts.

I want the same for my daughter.

I want them to see all people as equals, deserving of love and respect.

I want them to love themselves.

I want them to love what they do and do what they love and love who they love.  (And I hope whoever they love loves them back).

I don’t want my son to be scared of having a boner.

I don’t want my daughter to be scared of boys’ boners.

I don’t want my kids to be afraid to talk about anything because they worry they’ll look stupid or offend someone.

I want my kids to feel things, and be honest about how they feel.

I want my kids to appreciate human interaction.  


Do you have kids in your life? What do you want for them?